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AWMature Masculine Top for Gay, Bi and Curious Men
| Gender | Male |
| Age | 56 |
| Orientation | Bi-sexual |
| County | Essex |
| Region | East of England (Anglia) |
| Town | Chelmsford |
| Nationality | British |
| Postcode | CM1 |
| Ethnicity | Caucasian (White) |
| Height | 5'10" |
| Chest Size | 42" |
| Hair Colour | Brown Short |
| Eye Colour | Blue |
| Pubic Hair | Shaved Mostly |
I am James, 56—a mature, fair-skinned British bisexual man based in Chelmsford.
I am a confident, masculine top who naturally enjoys taking the lead. I welcome gay, bisexual and curious men, including married or privately exploring men, first-timers, older gentlemen and men with disabilities.
You do not need to be submissive. Some men want calm, firm direction; others simply prefer being with a confident and experienced top. You may know exactly what you want or still be discovering what attracts you.
My approach is unhurried, discreet and free from judgement. Tell me what interests you, what is firmly off limits and what pace feels right. Everything must be discussed and agreed beforehand. You can pause or stop at any time.
Barrier protection is required for penetrative sex. Safer-sex practices reduce risk but cannot remove it completely.
The agreed fee covers everything accepted when booking. There are no surprise extras.
My usual working hours are Tuesday to Saturday, from 11.00am, with meetings finishing by 3.30pm. All meetings must be arranged and confirmed in advance.
If you would like a better sense of me before introducing yourself, take a discreet look through my private gallery. If something catches your attention, tell me what it was when you message.
Contact me through the AdultWork messaging system. I check messages daily and normally reply within 24 hours.
Please include:
* Your name or preferred name and age
* What attracted you to my profile
* Your firm preferred date and starting time
* The duration required
* The broad type of experience you want
* Your interests, boundaries and definite dislikes
* Confirmation that you are ready to discuss a genuine paid booking
My usual working hours are Tuesday to Saturday, from 11.00am, with meetings finishing by 3.30pm.
I am based in Chelmsford and welcome genuine enquiries from across Essex.
I accept a limited number of suitable bookings. No appointment is reserved until the details, fee and deposit have been agreed.
A clear introduction will receive the best response. Messages seeking extended fantasy conversation without realistic booking details will not be continued.
I am a mature, masculine and experienced bisexual top who enjoys taking the lead.
I welcome gay, bisexual and curious men, including those exploring their attraction to men for the first time. I also understand the importance of discretion for married, closeted and private men.
You may be submissive and want confident direction, or you may be a relaxed, non-submissive man who simply prefers being with a natural top. No label or previous experience is required.
My style can be calm, playful and intimate or firmer and more dominant when that has been discussed and agreed. I do not assume that dominance means pain, humiliation or marks.
Being submissive never removes your right to question, pause or stop. Your interests, limits and comfort remain important throughout.
If you are looking for a mature British top in Chelmsford, send a proper introduction. Include your age, what attracted you to me, your boundaries and the firm date, starting time and duration you are requesting.
I may consider selected women who are attracted to a mature, confident and attentive man in Chelmsford.
You may be returning to intimacy after a long break, feeling overlooked or simply curious about exploring something privately and without judgement. You do not need to look a particular way, act experienced or arrive with a detailed plan.
My approach is unhurried and attentive. We can discuss what helps you feel comfortable, what interests you and anything that is firmly off limits. You remain in control of the pace and can pause or change your mind at any time.
For an initial enquiry, include your name or preferred name, age, what attracted you to my profile, preferred date, starting time, duration and the broad type of experience you want.
A brief voice conversation may be required before any booking is confirmed.
I may consider genuine couples seeking a confident bisexual man for a mutually agreed experience.
Both partners must communicate with me directly and freely want the meeting. One partner cannot negotiate consent on behalf of the other, and nobody should participate merely to please or keep their partner.
Before detailed plans are discussed or private material is exchanged, I will normally speak with both partners together. If only one partner communicates, I will treat the contact as a solo enquiry rather than a couples enquiry.
I can also offer a paid conversation to help a couple discuss a possible threesome calmly and respectfully. This is not a service for persuading a reluctant partner. Her concerns, boundaries and right to decline must be respected completely.
Please include:
* Both names or preferred names and ages
* Your location
* What attracted each partner to my profile
* Each person’s interests and firm boundaries
* Your preferred date, starting time and duration
Nothing will be arranged until everyone has communicated directly and appears comfortable with what is being considered.
I am naturally dominant and open to discussing a range of consensual interests.
These may include domination, bondage, spanking, edging, orgasm control, role play, voyeurism, clothed play, cross-dressing, foot worship, dirty talk and sensation play.
Nothing is assumed from a label, fantasy or previous experience. Activities, intensity, boundaries, safewords, health considerations, protection and aftercare must be discussed and agreed beforehand.
Submission does not remove your right to pause or stop. Silence, nervousness or physical arousal will never be treated as consent.
Before discussing a detailed scene, I require your name or preferred name, age, firm date, starting time, duration, broad interests, boundaries and confirmation that you are ready to consider a paid booking.
If your interest is not listed, ask respectfully. Not every request will be suitable or accepted.
Enjoys
- Oral
- "A" Levels
- BDSM
- Watersports
- Spanking
- Exhibitionism
- Toys
- Uniforms
- Fetish
- MMF 3Somes
- FFM 3Somes
- Moresomes
- Swinging
- Sub games
- Domination
- Deep Throat
- BDSM (giving)
- Rimming (receiving)
- Spanking (giving)
- Domination (giving)
- Humiliation (giving)
- "A" Levels (at discretion)
- Facials
- Receiving Oral
- Naturism/Nudism
- Foot Worship
- Role Play & Fantasy
- Pregnant
- Tantric
- Tie & Tease
- Anal Play
- Penetration (Protected)
- 15 Mins "quickie"
- Dinner Dates
- Food Sex/Sploshing
- Disabled Clients
- Gang Bangs
- Hand Relief
- Fingering/Finger Play
- Silent Caller (Phone Chat)
I meet with
- Male
- Female
- Couple MF
- Couple MM
Incall rates
| Duration | Cost |
| 15 mins | £60 |
| ½ Hour | £100 |
| ¾ Hour | £150 |
| 1 Hour | £200 |
| 1½ Hours | £250 |
| 2 Hours | £300 |
| 3 Hours | £400 |
| 4 Hours | £500 |
| Overnight | £1200 |
FAQs
Q : Who does James meet?
A : I welcome gay, bisexual and curious men, including first-timers, married or discreet men, submissive bottoms and non-submissive men who simply prefer a confident top. I may also consider selected women and genuine couples, provided everyone communicates directly and freely agrees.
Q : Curious about men but need discretion?
A : You do not need a label or previous experience. Tell me what attracts you, what concerns you and what is firmly off limits. I offer private, unhurried meetings without judgement and will never use your sexuality, relationship or personal information to pressure you.
Q : Do I need to be submissive?
A : No. Some men want calm, firm direction, while others simply enjoy being with a confident top. If you are submissive, we will agree your interests, limits and stopping points beforehand. Submission never removes your right to question, pause or stop
Q : How do you protect privacy, safety and boundaries?
A : Privacy and mutual discretion are essential. Activities, protection requirements and boundaries are discussed before meeting. Barrier protection is required for penetrative sex. Everyone must arrive sober and able to give clear consent. Photography, filming and recording are not permitted.
Q : Can we discuss role play or kink?
A : Yes. I am naturally dominant and open to discussing consensual interests. Send a concise outline of the role or atmosphere you want, your experience, health considerations, limits and anything you do not want. Detailed planning begins only after the date, duration, fee and booking readiness have been established.
Q : Do you offer anything quick and clearly defined?
A : A 15-minute oral booking may be available by prior arrangement. This is a clearly defined short service rather than a trial meeting. Ask about the current fee and availability when making a genuine enquiry.
Q : How do I request a meeting?
A : Contact me through AdultWork with your name or preferred name, age, what attracted you to my profile, firm preferred date, starting time, required duration, broad interests and boundaries. I am based in Chelmsford and normally work Tuesday to Saturday from 11.00am, with meetings finishing by 3.30pm.
Q : Can I view your private gallery before contacting you?
A : Yes. My private gallery offers a discreet glimpse of me and the atmosphere I enjoy creating. If something catches your attention, mention it in your introduction—it may help us decide whether there is a natural connection.
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Interview
Q : What is your starsign?
A : Libra Sept 23 - Oct 23
Q : What is your Primary Language?
A : English
Q : How would you describe your non-binary gender?
A : Bigender
Q : What is your favourite colour?
A : Black. Simple, masculine and timeless.
Q : Who is your favourite celebrity?
A : Sterling Cooper
Q : What is your best feature?
A : Thighs
Q : What is your worst feature?
A : Nose
Q : What three words best describe your personality?
A : Confident, discreet and adventurous.
Q : What is your favourite food?
A : a good curry
Q : What is your favourite drink?
A : Coffee
Q : What is your favourite film?
A : A Christmas Carol
Q : What is your favourite TV programme?
A : Reecher
Q : What are your favourite flowers?
A : Blossom
Q : What is your favourite perfume?
A : Hugo Boss
Q : What is your favourite gift?
A : An experience I will remember
Q : What is your favourite holiday destination?
A : A lively European city with good food, interesting
Q : What is your ethnicity?
A : Caucasian (White)
Q : What is the colour of your eyes?
A : Blue
Q : What is the colour of your hair?
A : Brown
Q : What length is your hair?
A : Short
Q : How would you describe your body type?
A : Athletic
Q : How tall are you?
A : 5'10"
Q : How much do you weigh?
A : 12st
Q : What is your leg measurement?
A : 32"
Q : What is your shoe size?
A : 9
Q : What size is your chest?
A : 42"
Q : What is your waist measurement?
A : 30"
Q : How is your pubic hair fashioned?
A : Shaved Mostly
Q : Do you smoke?
A : No
Q : Do you have any tattoos or piercings?
A : Neither
Q : What times are you always available?
A : Tuesday to Saturday, normally between 11.00am and
Q : Will you do overnight bookings?
A : Depends
Q : List of Towns/Areas you will visit
A : I am based in Chelmsford. Reasonable travel may be considered for suitable advance bookings, with travel costs agreed beforehand.
Q : How long are you prepared to travel for?
A : 30 mins
Q : Nearest rail station?
A : Chelmsford
Q : What sort of men turn you on?
A : I enjoy men who communicate clearly and genuinely want to explore. Submissive, curious and first-time men are especially welcome, but you do not need to fit a label. Chemistry, respect and honest boundaries matter most.
Q : What sort of women turn you on?
A : Confident adult women who know their own minds and communicate openly. Attraction is individual and cannot be reduced to one age, shape or style.
Q : What is the most memorable sexual experience you’ve ever had?
A : A carefully planned outdoor encounter where the anticipation, setting and chemistry made the experience unforgettable.
Q : What is the most outrageous thing that you’ve done sexually (be honest!)
A : An intimate meeting involving three adults in a secluded setting. Everyone understood the boundaries and wanted to be there.
Q : Where would you most like to have sex?
A : Somewhere private, comfortable and secure. Discretion and the ability to relax are more important than simply being daring.
Q : What is your favourite sexual position?
A : One that lets me remain confidently in control whi
Q : What is your second favourite sexual position?
A : Something close and controlled where pace, movem
Q : What is your biggest turn on?
A : Mutual desire, anticipation and someone confidently choosing to place themselves under my direction.
Q : The most sensitive part of my anatomy is?
A : That is something I prefer to let the right person
Q : What is your favourite sexual fantasy?
A : A private escape with open-minded adults, plenty of anticipation and enough time for everyone to relax and explore without rushing.
Q : How often do you masturbate?
A : Occasionally. I prefer genuine chemistry and share
Q : What sexual activity do you enjoy the most?
A : Taking the lead, building anticipation and discove
Q : When is your libido at its highest?
A : When attraction, trust and anticipation come toget
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