Discreet and Male
AW**A Sweet Shop for Gay, Bi and Curious Men**
| Gender | Male |
| Age | 49 |
| Orientation | Bi-sexual |
| County | Essex |
| Region | East of England (Anglia) |
| Town | Chelmsford |
| Nationality | British |
| Postcode | CM1 |
| Ethnicity | Caucasian (White) |
| Height | 5'11" |
| Chest Size | 42" |
| Hair Colour | Brown Short |
| Eye Colour | Blue |
| Pubic Hair | Shaved Mostly |
Gay, bisexual and curious men in Chelmsford and across Essex are especially welcome.
My usual working hours are Tuesday to Saturday, from 11:00 am to 4:00 pm. All meetings must be arranged and confirmed in advance.
I am a mature, fair-skinned British man. I am naturally dominant and a confident top. I enjoy taking the lead, but I am equally comfortable with submissive men and relaxed, non-submissive guys who simply want an enjoyable experience with another man.
You may know exactly what you want or still be exploring your bisexuality. No label or previous experience is required. Tell me what interests you, what is off limits and what pace feels right.
I offer an unhurried, natural experience with clear boundaries and no judgement. Safer-sex requirements apply. Everything included will be discussed before we meet. The fee agreed when booking is the fee you pay.
If you would like a better sense of me before saying hello, take a discreet look through my private gallery. If something catches your attention, tell me what it was when you message.
Contact me through the AdultWork email system. I normally check my messages daily and aim to reply within 24 hours.
For a useful reply, please include:
Your preferred date and starting time
Your required booking duration
What sort of experience interests you
Any important boundaries
I am based in Chelmsford and welcome genuine enquiries from across Essex.
I am a confident, experienced top who enjoys taking the lead.
I welcome gay, bisexual and curious men, including those exploring their attraction to men for the first time. You may be submissive and want firm direction, or you may be a non-submissive guy who simply prefers being with a confident top.
My style can be relaxed, intimate and playful or more dominant when that has been discussed and agreed. Being submissive never means agreeing to everything. Your interests, limits and stopping points remain important throughout.
If you are looking for a mature British top in Chelmsford, email me with a proper introduction and tell me what you would like to explore.
I welcome women who want time with a mature, confident and attentive man in Chelmsford.
You may be returning to intimacy after a long break, feeling overlooked in your current relationship or simply ready to explore a private fantasy without judgement. You do not need to look a certain way, act experienced or arrive with a fixed plan.
My approach is unhurried and focused on you. We can discuss what helps you feel comfortable, what you enjoy and anything that is firmly off limits. You remain in control of the pace and can pause or change your mind at any time.
For an initial enquiry, tell me your age, preferred date, booking duration and the kind of experience you would like. A short voice conversation may be required before confirming the booking.
I welcome genuine couples seeking a confident man to join a mutually agreed experience.
I can also help men discuss a possible threesome with their female partners in a patient and respectful way. This is not about persuading her. It is about listening to her concerns, understanding what might help her feel comfortable and accepting that she may decide it is not for her. This is a paid additional service.
Both partners must communicate with me directly and freely agree before any booking is considered. Nobody should take part merely to please or keep their partner.
Before discussing detailed plans or exchanging private material, I will normally speak with both of you.
Send your ages, location, preferred date and a clear outline of what each of you wants, including any concerns or firm boundaries.
I am naturally dominant and open to discussing a range of consensual interests, including domination, bondage, spanking, edging, orgasm control, role play, voyeurism, clothed play, cross-dressing, foot worship, dirty talk and sensation play.
Nothing is assumed from a label or fantasy. Activities, intensity, boundaries and safer-sex requirements must be agreed beforehand.
If your interest is not listed, ask politely through AdultWork. Include enough detail for me to decide whether we are compatible.
Enjoys
- Oral
- "A" Levels
- BDSM
- Watersports
- Spanking
- Exhibitionism
- Toys
- Uniforms
- Fetish
- MMF 3Somes
- FFM 3Somes
- Moresomes
- Swinging
- Sub games
- Domination
- Deep Throat
- BDSM (giving)
- Rimming (receiving)
- Spanking (giving)
- Domination (giving)
- Humiliation (giving)
- CIM (at discretion)
- "A" Levels (at discretion)
- Facials
- Receiving Oral
- Naturism/Nudism
- Foot Worship
- Role Play & Fantasy
- Pregnant
- Tantric
- Tie & Tease
- Anal Play
- Penetration (Protected)
- 15 Mins "quickie"
- Dinner Dates
- Food Sex/Sploshing
- Disabled Clients
- Gang Bangs
- Hand Relief
- Fingering/Finger Play
- Silent Caller (Phone Chat)
I meet with
- Male
- Female
- Couple MF
- Couple MM
Incall rates
| Duration | Cost |
| 15 mins | £60 |
| ½ Hour | £150 |
| ¾ Hour | £180 |
| 1 Hour | £200 |
| 1½ Hours | £250 |
| 2 Hours | £300 |
| 3 Hours | £400 |
| 4 Hours | £500 |
| Overnight | £1200 |
FAQs
Q : Are you a genuine bisexual top?
A : Yes. I am bisexual, naturally dominant and a confident top. I enjoy taking the lead with men and welcome gay, bisexual and curious guys. I also meet women and couples where everyone communicates directly and freely agrees.
Q : Curious about men but need discretion?
A : You do not need a label or previous experience. Tell me what attracts you, what worries you and what is firmly off limits. We can agree a private, unhurried meeting that moves at your pace.
Q : How will you protect my privacy?
A : Privacy is essential. I keep my personal and working lives separate and expect mutual discretion. My wife knows about my work. I will never use your sexuality, relationship or private information to pressure you.
Q : Would we be a good match?
A : I welcome gay, bisexual and curious men, including submissive bottoms and non-submissive men who simply prefer a confident top. I also meet women and genuine couples seeking a mature, attentive man.
Q : Can I explore while keeping control of my boundaries?
A : Yes. You remain in control of your boundaries and pace. We will agree what interests you, what is off limits and how you can pause or stop. Being submissive never removes your right to change your mind.
Q : Looking for an experienced dominant top?
A : I am naturally dominant and experienced with male and female submissives. My approach can be calm, playful or firm, depending on what we agree. Dominance is built around communication and consent—not unwanted pain or humiliation.
Q : Can I meet you without being submissive?
A : Yes. Many gay and bisexual men simply want a relaxed experience with a confident top. You do not have to adopt a submissive role or take part in kink. Tell me what you enjoy and what atmosphere would suit you.
Q : Can you take control without crossing my limits?
A : Yes. I can lead, guide and control the pace within clearly agreed limits. Tell me whether you want something gentle, structured or firmer. You can pause or stop at any time.
Q : Can you guide an inexperienced bisexual submissive?
A : Yes. I welcome submissive bisexual men who enjoy serving a confident top. We will agree your role, limits and expectations beforehand. You do not need previous experience, but you do need to communicate honestly.
Q : How do you make meetings safer?
A : I take sexual health seriously, undertake regular screening and use safer-sex practices. Protection requirements and boundaries are discussed before meeting. No activity is completely risk-free, so nothing is assumed.
Q : Is protection always required?
A : Yes. Penetrative sex outside my regular relationships requires barrier protection. This boundary is not negotiable.
Q : I have a fantasy you have never explored?
A : Send a clear outline of your fantasy, the role you want, your limits and anything you do not want included. Every role play remains consensual and can be paused or stopped.
Q : Want something quick and clearly defined?
A : A 15-minute oral booking is available by prior agreement. It is a defined short service rather than a trial session. Ask for the current details and availability when you contact me.
Q : Does size matter—or does experience matter more?
A : I am average-sized. I rely on confidence, attention and experience rather than exaggerated claims.
Q : Nervous about meeting a man after a long break?
A : That is understandable. My approach is patient, unhurried and focused on helping you feel comfortable. You do not need to look a certain way or act experienced. We can discuss your interests, concerns and firm boundaries before deciding whether to meet.
Q : Thinking about your first threesome together?
A : I offer couples a calm, respectful introduction. Her comfort, pleasure and boundaries will be heard directly—not passed through her partner. Both people must genuinely want the experience.
Q : How can we discuss a threesome without pressure?
A : I offer a paid conversation service to help couples discuss the idea respectfully. This is not about persuading her. It is about listening to her concerns, answering questions and accepting that she may decide it is not for her.
Q : Would you prefer to meet me with a female partner?
A : A female partner may be available by prior arrangement. She is a confident, curvy bisexual woman with a warm and playful nature. Her availability and participation are never assumed; everyone communicates directly and agrees the boundaries first.
Q : Ready to discuss your private meeting?
A : Send me yourpreferred date and time, required duration, interests and important boundaries through AdultWork. I am based in Chelmsford and normally work Tuesday to Saturday, from 11:00 am to 4:00 pm.
Q : Can I view your private gallery before contacting you?
A : Yes. My private gallery offers a discreet glimpse of me and the atmosphere I enjoy creating. If something catches your attention, mention it when you send your introduction—it may help us discover whether there is a natural connection.
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James offers discreet solo meetings near Chelmsford for gay, bisexual and curious men. You may be experienced, completely new or simply interested in exploring without judgement.
I am confident, dominant and naturally take the lead, but a good meeting begins with communication. We agree boundaries beforehand and move at a pace that allows you to remain comfortable and in control of your choices.
There is no need to exaggerate your experience or pretend to be someone else. Honest messages receive the best response.
My availability is limited, so vague enquiries rarely progress. If you genuinely want to meet, tell me your age, what interests you, the time you would need and when you can realistically attend.
Curiosity is understandable. Turning it into a well-planned meeting requires a clear decision.
James
Interview
Q : What is your starsign?
A : Libra Sept 23 - Oct 23
Q : What is your Primary Language?
A : English
Q : How would you describe your non-binary gender?
A : Bigender
Q : What is your favourite colour?
A : Black
Q : Who is your favourite celebrity?
A : Sterling Cooper
Q : What is your best feature?
A : Thighs
Q : What is your worst feature?
A : Legs
Q : What three words best describe your personality?
A : Fun and Free
Q : What is your favourite food?
A : Curry
Q : What is your favourite drink?
A : Coffee
Q : What is your favourite film?
A : A Christmas Carol
Q : What is your favourite TV programme?
A : Reecher
Q : What are your favourite flowers?
A : Blossom
Q : What is your favourite perfume?
A : Hugo Boss
Q : What is your favourite gift?
A : Money
Q : What is your favourite holiday destination?
A : Generally Cities
Q : What is your ethnicity?
A : Caucasian (White)
Q : What is the colour of your eyes?
A : Blue
Q : What is the colour of your hair?
A : Brown
Q : What length is your hair?
A : Short
Q : How would you describe your body type?
A : Athletic
Q : How tall are you?
A : 5'11"
Q : How much do you weigh?
A : 12st
Q : What is your leg measurement?
A : 32"
Q : What is your shoe size?
A : 8
Q : What size is your chest?
A : 42"
Q : What is your waist measurement?
A : 30"
Q : How is your pubic hair fashioned?
A : Shaved Mostly
Q : Do you smoke?
A : No
Q : Do you have any tattoos or piercings?
A : Neither
Q : What times are you always available?
A : Most days and some evenings by prior arrangement
Q : Will you do overnight bookings?
A : Yes
Q : List of Towns/Areas you will visit
A : Anywhere for the right Fee
Q : Nearest rail station?
A : Chelmsford
Q : What sort of men turn you on?
A : To be honest, submissive men. I adore spanking a subs backside.
Q : What sort of women turn you on?
A : All sorts and ages. Shapes and sizes. I truly love women.
Q : What is the most memorable sexual experience you’ve ever had?
A : Having sex in a Starbucks toilet. Sex in the woods.
Q : What is the most outrageous thing that you’ve done sexually (be honest!)
A : A threesome in the woods.
Q : Where would you most like to have sex?
A : For some strange reason, in a caravan.
Q : What is your favourite sexual position?
A : Her laying back. Me upright between her thighs.
Q : What is your second favourite sexual position?
A : Her on her fromt. Me on top behind.
Q : What is your biggest turn on?
A : Watching two women go to it. Simply love it.
Q : The most sensitive part of my anatomy is?
A : My scrotum
Q : What is your favourite sexual fantasy?
A : What is my sexual fantasy. A week away with a group of twenty women. With nothing to do but have sex. One on one. Threesomes. Large group sex.
Q : How often do you masturbate?
A : Strangely, rarely.
Q : What sexual activity do you enjoy the most?
A : Coming in all three holes
Q : When is your libido at its highest?
A : Cuckolding. simply love it.
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